A 2.0 Theories → Aria Montgomery

 2x22 Father Knows Best: At the end of the episode, Aria mentions she’s cold so puts on Alison/Vivian’s red coat that was in the back of the car, this was the last time we saw the coat.

2x25 UnmAsked: At the end of this episode, Mona is visited by who we assume is the ‘main’ A, who is wearing a red coat. Marlene King stated that there is one A who has helpers known as A also, Aria could be this main A.

Spencer also finds A’s sketches of their costume, saying they’re going as the Black Swan, after googling, there is an alternative look to a Black Swan costume used to advertise the Natalie Portman movie.

1x1 Pilot: This isn’t just to do with the pilot, but since the beginning, Aria has been the main focus since she is the only liar to do the ‘shh’ in the opening sequence. Maybe this suggests she is the center of attention, thus, head A.

1x13 Know Your Frenemies: Just as Noel Kahn was about to go to the principal about Aria and Ezra, A set him up to look as though he’d stole test answers. It usually looks as though the sort of thing A would do would be to expose Aria and Ezra’s relationship. Aria and Ezra have also had their relationship threatened many more times but A finds a way of helping them.

2x18 A Kiss Before Lying: Aria admits to having lied to her friends, in context she means about Spencer not telling Hanna about them all working on A’s videos, out of context looking like she was talking about Ezra. However, she is notorious for keeping bigger secrets, for example, her friends didn’t know about her relationship until the 11th episode.

2x22 Father Knows Best: The other liars say Aria is best at lying to the people she loves. Aria agrees to do the task but it’s been mentioned multiple times Aria is good at keeping secrets, best at lying, could turn against her own family etc, maybe Aria is keeping the biggest secret from them all: that she is the head of the whole A thing.

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What is bullying?

People who are bullied find that they are:

• constantly criticised and subjected to destructive criticism (often euphemistically called constructive criticism, which is an oxymoron) - explanations and proof of achievement are ridiculed, overruled, dismissed or ignored
• forever subject to nit-picking and trivial fault-finding (the triviality is the giveaway)
• undermined, especially in front of others; false concerns are raised, or doubts are expressed over a person’s performance or standard of work - however, the doubts lack substantive and quantifiable evidence, for they are only the bully’s unreliable opinion and are for control, not performance enhancement
• overruled, ignored, sidelined, marginalised, ostracised
• isolated and excluded from what’s happening (this makes people more vulnerable and easier to control and subjugate)
• singled out and treated differently (for example everyone else can have long lunch breaks but if they are one minute late it’s a disciplinary offence)
• belittled, degraded, demeaned, ridiculed, patronised, subject to disparaging remarks
• regularly the target of offensive language, personal remarks, or inappropriate bad language
• the target of unwanted sexual behaviour
• threatened, shouted at and humiliated, especially in front of others
• taunted and teased where the intention is to embarrass and humiliate
• set unrealistic goals and deadlines which are unachievable or which are changed without notice or reason or whenever they get near achieving them
• denied information or knowledge necessary for undertaking work and achieving objectives
• starved of resources, sometimes whilst others often receive more than they need
• denied support by their manager and thus find themselves working in a management vacuum
• either overloaded with work (this keeps people busy [with no time to tackle bullying] and makes it harder to achieve targets) or have all their work taken away (which is sometimes replaced with inappropriate menial jobs, eg photocopying, filing, making coffee)
• have their responsibility increased but their authority removed
• have their work plagiarised, stolen and copied - the bully then presents their target’s work (eg to senior management) as their own
• are given the silent treatment: the bully refuses to communicate and avoids eye contact (always an indicator of an abusive relationship); often instructions are received only via email, memos, or a succession of yellow stickies or post-it notes
• subject to excessive monitoring, supervision, micro-management, recording, snooping etc
• the subject of written complaints by other members of staff (most of whom have been coerced into fabricating allegations - the complaints are trivial, often bizarre [“He looked at me in a funny way”] and often bear striking similarity to each other, suggesting a common origin)
• forced to work long hours, often without remuneration and under threat of dismissal
• find requests for leave have unacceptable and unnecessary conditions attached, sometimes overturning previous approval. especially if the person has taken action to address bullying in the meantime
• denied annual leave, sickness leave, or - especially - compassionate leave
• when on leave, are harassed by calls at home or on holiday, often at unsocial hours
• receive unpleasant or threatening calls or are harassed with intimidating memos, notes or emails with no verbal communication, immediately prior to weekends and holidays (eg 4pm Friday or Christmas Eve - often these are hand-delivered)
• do not have a clear job description, or have one that is exceedingly long or vague; the bully often deliberately makes the person’s role unclear
• are invited to “informal” meetings which turn out to be disciplinary hearings
• are denied representation at meetings, often under threat of further disciplinary action; sometimes the bully abuses their position of power to exclude any representative who is competent to deal with bullying
• encouraged to feel guilty, and to believe they’re always the one at fault
• subjected to unwarranted and unjustified verbal or written warnings
• facing unjustified disciplinary action on trivial or specious or false charges
• facing dismissal on fabricated charges or flimsy excuses, often using a trivial incident from months or years previously
• coerced into reluctant resignation, enforced redundancy, early or ill-health retirement
• denial of the right to earn your livelihood including preventing you getting another job, usually with a bad or misleading reference

A favourite tactic of bullies which helps them evade detection is to undertake a “reorganisation” at regular intervals. This has several advantages:

• anyone whose face doesn’t fit can be organised out through downsizing (redundancy) or transfer
• ditto anyone who challenges the reorganisation
• ditto, their job can be “regraded” or “redefined” to the person’s disadvantage
• each reorganisation is a smokescreen for the bully’s dysfunctional behaviour - everyone is so busy coping with the reorganisation (chaos) that the bully’s behaviour goes unnoticed
• the bully can always claim to be reorganising in the name of “efficiency” and therefore be perceived by those above as a strong manager

However, there is never any cost-benefit justification to the reorganisation - no figures before and no figures after to prove the reorganisation has brought benefits.

Why me?

There are many reasons how and why bullies target others, and the reasons are consistent between cases. There are many myths and stereotypes such as “victims are weak” which I deconstruct on my myths page. Bullying often repeats because the reasons that bullies target their victims don’t change, hence this section also answers the questions “Why do I keep getting bullied” and “Why do bullies continue to bully me?”.

1) How do bullies select their targets?

The bully selects their target using the following criteria:

• bullies are predatory and opportunistic - you just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time; this is always the main reason - investigation will reveal a string of predecessors, and you will have a string of successors
• being good at your job, often excelling
• being popular with people (colleagues, customers, clients, pupils, parents, patients, etc)
• more than anything else, the bully fears exposure of his/her inadequacy and incompetence; your presence, popularity and competence unknowingly and unwittingly fuel that fear
• being the expert and the person to whom others come for advice, either personal or professional (ie you get more attention than the bully)
• having a well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise
• having a strong sense of integrity (bullies despise integrity, for they have none, and seem compelled to destroy anyone who has integrity)
• having at least one vulnerability that can be exploited
• being too old or too expensive (usually both)
• refusing to join an established clique
• showing independence of thought or deed
• refusing to become a corporate clone and drone

Jealousy (of relationships and perceived exclusion therefrom) and envy (of talents, abilities, circumstances or possessions) are strong motivators of bullying.

2) Events that trigger bullying

Bullying starts after one of these events:

• the previous target leaves
• there’s a reorganisation
• a new manager is appointed
• your performance unwittingly highlights, draws attention to, exposes or invites unfavourable comparison with the bully’s lack of performance (the harder you work to address the bully’s claims of underperformance, the more insecure and unstable the bully becomes)
• you may have unwittingly become the focus of attention whereas before the bully was the centre of attention (this often occurs with female bullies) - most bullies are emotionally immature and thus crave attention
• obvious displays of affection, respect or trust from co-workers
• refusing to obey an order which violates rules, regulations, procedures, or is illegal
• standing up for a colleague who is being bullied - this ensures you will be next; sometimes the bully drops their current target and turns their attention to you immediately
• blowing the whistle on incompetence, malpractice, fraud, illegality, breaches of procedure, breaches of health & safety regulations etc
• undertaking trade union duties
• suffering illness or injury, whether work related or not
• challenging the status quo, especially unwittingly
• gaining recognition for your achievements, eg winning an award or being publicly recognised
• gaining promotion

3) Personal qualities that bullies find irresistible

Targets of bullying usually have these qualities:

• popularity (this stimulates jealousy in the less-than-popular bully)
• competence (this stimulates envy in the less-than-competent bully)
• intelligence and intellect
• honesty and integrity (which bullies despise)
• you’re trustworthy, trusting, conscientious, loyal and dependable
• a well-developed integrity which you’re unwilling to compromise
• you’re always willing to go that extra mile and expect others to do the same
• successful, tenacious, determined, courageous, having fortitude
• a sense of humour, including displays of quick-wittedness
• imaginative, creative, innovative
• idealistic, optimistic, always working for improvement and betterment of self, family, the employer, and the world
• ability to master new skills
• ability to think long term and to see the bigger picture
• sensitivity (this is a constellation of values to be cherished including empathy, concern for others, respect, tolerance etc)
• slow to anger
• helpful, always willing to share knowledge and experience
• giving and selfless
• difficulty saying no
• diligent, industrious
• tolerant
• strong sense of honour
• irrepressible, wanting to tackle and correct injustice wherever you see it
• an inability to value oneself whilst attributing greater importance and validity to other people’s opinions of oneself (eg through tests, exams, appraisals, manager’s feedback, etc)
• low propensity to violence (ie you prefer to resolve conflict through dialogue rather than through violence or legal action)
• a strong forgiving streak (which the bully exploits and manipulates to dissuade you from taking grievance and legal action)
• a desire to always think well of others
• being incorruptible, having high moral standards which you are unwilling to compromise
• being unwilling to lower standards
• a strong well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise or abandon
• high expectations of those in authority and a dislike of incompetent people in positions of power who abuse power
• a tendency to self-deprecation, indecisiveness, deference and approval seeking
• low assertiveness
• a need to feel valued
• quick to apologise when accused, even if not guilty (this is a useful technique for defusing an aggressive customer or potential road rage incident)
• perfectionism
• higher-than-average levels of dependency, naivety and guilt
• a strong sense of fair play and a desire to always be reasonable
• high coping skills under stress, especially when the injury to health becomes apparent
• a tendency to internalise anger rather than express it

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